Acceptance – I love you and I don’t care what you do. I want you to make the choices that are best for you, even if I may not understand them. Your thoughts, feelings and actions are your responsibility. You don’t NEED me.
Boundaries – I love me and I will make the choices that are best for me. My thoughts, feelings and actions are my responsibility. I don’t NEED you.
Communication – I love us. I know we are two whole and separate individuals and I WANT a relationship with you so I choose to open up with you.
These ABC’s are simple. They are not easy. We all have places where our boundaries are fuzzy and we may look to someone else to try to replace something we have lost; expecting that person to fill a need that can only be healed by loving and accepting ourselves.
Our responsibility is always and only ourselves. To be the lover, parent, child or business person that we want to be means loving ourselves first and then asking ‘Who do I want to be in this relationship?”
I accept you as you are.
I am responsible for myself.
I can choose to be vulnerable because I know who I am.
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Wow, wow, wow, Darliss!! If this is a sign of things to come, I’m already a huge fan of your blog!!
Not just a clear writing style but also a brilliant piece here that sums up beautifully well the keys to a healthy partnership. Thanks for sharing it.
Thank you, Jeannette! Having you as a fan is a huge compliment!
Wow! Darliss! I love you so much! I love the simplicity of this! Great Big Thank you for this!
Great blog Darliss! It’s short, to the point and so true……….I am most impressed with how you were able to simplify a topic that some find anything but.
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